I should also mention right about now that we're both rather competitive people, mostly against ourselves in our own heads. We have to assume this makes us better people or else we sure are wasting a lot of brain energy! E did a fabulous job of summarizing where we both are right now in our lives and I'm pretty sure that by now, she knows me better than I know myself.
There is a past that comes along with everyone. Baggage that is good/bad/otherwise but things that have made us who we are today. We've both come to our places and values in life through rather different paths. At 16 I met my husband and while it was not the plan to spend my life with one man (especially one I met in dreaded high school) that is what happened. E had plans to be married and have started a family by now but instead she's deviated to work 2 jobs and attend grad-school full time in order to truly help children in such a selfless manner that only she could accomplish. In some ways we're jealous of the others place in life but truth is, we both truly love our lives.
I've found that no matter how much you plan your life and have expectations of people and events, there is still a force out there that nudges us down the dark side of that fork in the road sometimes. And by "dark side" I don't necessarily mean scary/bad/negative- I mean the road less traveled, the more difficult path that takes you up some rocky & craggy trails. E & I seem to love that road! Where she leaps head first with hands in the air I stop, look around, and take a slower leap.
As far as friendships go, E has friends in her life for longer than I could ever fathom. She's tolerant, accepting, loving, and kind. You'll always have a chance to screw up and she'll be there when you're done. She also has an uncanny knack for kicking you in the nuts while giving you a big hug at the same time. E tells it like it is and while she doesn't sugar coat things, she knows how best to present it to you so it will be best received. No matter what path you take, she will always walk beside you, in front of you, or behind depending on what you need at the time.
Friends are something I have never trusted. Friends are selfish, they betray you, they never care about your problems. Every other close friend I've had has used me and my propensity to listen and be there. I learned to fear offering my honest advice because I could loose the friendship. More than love I sought friends. Love was easy, success in friendships always allusive. Now, with a true friend, I trust that I can be as honest about my inner-most thoughts. Though we're very different, on the inside we just get each other. That is such a rare gift and I am truly blessed to have been patient enough, and open to enough experiences and relationships that I finally got it right!
Now on to our interesting quips and observations!